January 16, 2023
5 Things You Can Do When Struggling With Indecision

Making decisions can be scary for many of us. The pressure to do or say the "right" things can be overwhelming and at times immobilizing!. Yet, not making a decision, is a decision! So what can we do?

FEAR is what stops us from most things in life. Fear of failure, of success, of rejection, of ridicule. Making decisions can be scary for many of us. The pressure to do or say the "right" things can be overwhelming and at times immobilizing!. Yet, not making a decision, is a decision!

So what can we do?

Create the time and space to reflect on what the decision is and how it may impact you and your significant others. Decisions that align with your values are the ones that we tend to keep and honor.

Research your options. There are usually multiple roads that end in the same place. Make lists of pros/cons for each. Narrow your list to (2) choices. Talk to trusted people about your options. Having a process can keep you on track.

Be mindful of your body. Allow yourself the time to explore the feelings that you are  having: fear, anxiety, worry. Embracing these instead of avoiding them will help you focus clearer and more easily.

Consider the worst case scenarios. Exploring obstacles and alternatives can help you plan as well as anticipate your reactions.

Give yourself a loving time limit to decide. It is ok to gather information, explore options and then hit the "Pause Button,” giving yourself some space for creativity and listening to your gut. Then choose the best of the options!

All decisions are learning opportunities. Not mistakes. Allowing yourself the time, quiet exploration of options and flexibility to change your mind as new information is available will allow you to make the best decision for you.

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