September 23, 2021
Identifying Self-sabotaging Behaviors

Self-sabotage happens when there’s fear and insecurity, when we think deep down that we are not deserving of good things, and good people in our life.

Self-sabotage happens when there’s fear and insecurity, when we think deep down that we are not deserving of good things, and good people in our life. It sounds like something we would never want to do, yet there are many small ways that we behave in this way and get in our own way!  

Self-sabotage can look like:

*Staying in a job that you hate because you are afraid of change

*Not updating your resume, or taking the steps you need to take to find a job that makes you happy

*Procrastinating and putting off what you want to do, and only do what you have to do

*Staying in a relationship because you are afraid to be alone

*Staying in a relationship because you care more about others’ feelings

*Expecting perfection from yourself (and others)

*Blaming others or "bad luck" for your lack of success

*Putting off your "Bucket List" goals because of time, money, fear of failure or rejection

*Overextending yourself by saying YES when you want to say NO

*Focusing on what you DON'T have instead of what you DO have

*Talking down to yourself. Negative thinking, and catastrophizing

Quick management tip for self-sabotage:

When things start going well, just breathe into it. Believe that it will continue and sit with the discomfort of your new reality. This new reality will become more familiar as you breathe into it!



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